a case of a childhood impaired by molestation

Sunday, January 29, 2012


it's a hard thing to say,
to admit
it took me years...
for me to even be able to say the word

i knew it was wrong,
i always knew it was so wrong.
but, i was so young when it started...
i was so afraid and so brainwashed.
how would i know what to say or do..
i was confused.


i was molested.
for over five years of my life.
when it started is vague..i'm thinking six,
but i know i was about eleven when it finally stopped.
when i finally told my older sister..

i remember thinking about telling her for months,
the courage always seemed to escape me.
i remember practicing how i was going to tell her on my walks home from school.
how hard that time was for me.
saying those words, for the first time
were the hardest part of this journey.
this recovery.
this self finding.
how do you find yourself in a little girl that's been molested for the majority of her life?
i was so lost, and i felt so alone.

i remember thinking she was going to yell at me,
and run off and tell my mom.

i was so afraid of my mom.

my abuser had created a monster out of my mom.
telling me she hated me.
that i was a mistake.
that she wouldn't care in the least if i was gone.

and for a very long time
i believed him

that's how i lived,
that was my truth,
the only thing i knew
for years as a child.

really looking back,
it's almost unbelievable to me.

somehow, through all of that shit
an eleven year old girl
found the courage to tell her first someone.

to spit out that word that was deteriorating her entire being
from the inside out.

i was molested.
i am a victim of sexual, physical and verbal abuse.
i was called every horrible name in the book before the age of ten.
i was beaten with any object laying around.
i knew an array of sexual disgusting-ness no kid should ever know.

all the while under the same roof my family lived in.
without anyone knowing.

with a silent shout i wait
to become stronger, to find myself

everyday has new beginnings

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

another day...

so, what i've discovered
is that we're all here to help each other.
balance our insecurities out.

i hadn't realized it but
its really great to be able to have good conversations 
and good cry's...
talk openly and with out shame
about our situations,
our problems,
our individual cases,
our baggage,
our pains.
it lets our souls breathe,
in a way never imagined.

another day to discover and to realize.
we are wonderful
just they way we are

Friday, January 6, 2012

a letter for people who know me, love me, and help me on this journey

i can feel it,
the change
it's a sense of flourishing.
it's abundance
coming at me in waves.
and i don't exactly know how to feel,
how to take it
breath by breath.
you all hold me with such love,
and sincerity.

thank you

it means so much to me.
thank you for forgiveness,
for taking the time to understand me,
for all the patience in the world.

emotionally would definitely not be here
without you.

thank you for being a part of me
a part of my recovery